When you can’t bring baby home
A guide to surviving, and thriving, when your baby is in the NICU
Image courtesy of Stacey Palmer
Having a baby in the NICU can be devastating for a family. Whether your baby came early, or is medically fragile, it’s never the experience you imagined. Here are five ways to make it in the aNicu.
1. Connect with a qualified lactation consultant
If you are planning to breastfeed and your baby is not ready or able to nurse, it is important to connect with a qualified lactation consultant. They will be able to advise you on hand expression, pumping, appropriate milk storage, and, when your baby is ready, latch. Some premature babies have a difficult time breastfeeding, so having the support of an LC can take some of the stress away.
2. Be Involved
Many hospitals in the GTA are shifting to a family centred model of care. That means that the nurses will involve you in the care of your baby as much as possible. This can include diaper changes, bathing, and feeding. When possible, be present for rounds so you know if there are any changes to the plan.
3. Keep your baby close
Skin to skin or kangaroo care is shown to help babies get well. It also promotes milk production and facilitates bonding between baby and parent. We recommend The Sleep Belt, which is approved for premature and small babies.
4. Connect with the hospital social worker or support groups
The NICU can be a very isolating. Talk to the hospital social worker and see if there are any parent support groups or networks. It can help to talk with parents who are going through the same things, or parents who have already graduated from the NICU. The social worker can also help to screen for postpartum mood disorders, which are more prevalent when families have a medically fragile baby.
5. Remember self-care
When you are worried about your baby, it can be easy to neglect yourself. Taking the time to eat healthy meals, get enough sleep, and shower regularly will help you to stay healthy so you can be there for your baby. You can’t serve from an empty vessel, taking care of yourself will help you take care of your baby.
We know that the NICU can be stressful. You don’t have to be alone in this journey. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.